We have entered 2019 and I have been monitoring our newspapers and media sources and the story seems to still be the same. All men and fathers are perpetrators and abusers they seem to be focusing on the few and branding all men with the same brush. This narrative is a very dangerous one as the majority of men/fathers are very good and law abiding. Now if you look at demographics if there are more men than women, of course, it would seem like men are to blame for everything!
So, if the tables were turned and there were more women than men it would be exactly the same thing. What if we flipped the script and the media focused on all the bad mums, paedophile women and the women that caused domestic violence? How would the general public, courts and government agencies respond to them? Would it be unbiased or would this form of brainwashing produced by the media influence peoples decisions!
I would think the latter personally and I don’t blame women for behaving the way they do towards men as they can’t get away from it. It is literally forced down your throat as a woman on a daily basis and there is no escape from the DV and DA narrative. I am not taking anything away from the genuine cases at all but not EVERY single man is the same. Even as a woman you are not immune from it as if you have any boys within your family they will be tarnished with the same brush. It might be fine while they are babies and early teens but as soon as they come of age the rules will change.
As a mother you can say all day long I will bring up my son to be different he will not get involved with all the things that the media print. Unfortunately, it does not work like that as you have a son that is all that is needed for him to be tarnished with the same brush. He could be an excellent child and a very good man but at the end of the day, he is still a man. If you don’t believe me read the stories of fathers in family court, monitor the media and see how many stories are focused on men causing DV/DA and how many stories are on women causing DV/DA.
You will see practically none on women and this is for many reasons there is a myth around men not being capable of being in a relationship with DV/DA committed by a woman. If it is a man he will be embarrassed to come forward because of the stigma surrounding it and 9 times out of 10 he will probably be arrested himself for reporting. As it is not the norm for a man to report DV/DA to the police so it is easier to arrest him as the perpetrator and deal with the consequences later. The lack of support and safe havens for men is practically non-existent, so it will, in turn, be under-reported.
Trying to be a father over the last 10 years has gone from bad to worse and if you are a dad in a happy relationship you are still not immune to it. If anything should happen and hopefully it will never happen to you, but if it did you will see how the society you believed to be equal is far from it and your world will be turned upside down. It will be financially, emotionally and mentally put you in a place which you never thought would have been possible.
You will look back at that conversation you had with your partner/ex-partner when she said to you let’s try for a baby and build a family unit. That conversation where you thought it was all equal and you both chose to have that child means absolutely nothing if you should split up. We need to encourage fatherhood and equality to bring our society into the 21st century and remove us from this biased dark ages whereby men as only seen as breadwinners and not caregivers. If we don’t change the script fatherhood will become extinct and there will be kids running around the streets without role models and father figures to balance them out. Being a parent should consist of two loving people wanting the best and doing the best for their children whether they are together or not!
When you are a celebrity are you not classified as a normal human being? Just because you have mastered your art form and have managed to make allot of money from it you somehow don’t have feelings or can have problems?
So, I have been following Ant McPartlin for awhile as I can see how the industry, media and life can take its toll on you over a period of time. Whatever is happening in Ants life we will never really know what it is, only his close friends and family will really know what he is going through. I do not in any way condone what he did driving while drunk/intoxicated but it is clearly a sign of his mental health deterioration. This blog is not only about him but about all celebrities who are going through pressure and stress that sometimes cannot be hidden.
Unfortunately, Ant has been the latest celeb that has been caught in the public eye but what pisses me off is how people are treating him. Yes, we all make mistakes and because he is a celebrity his is not allowed to make any?? Get a grip keyboard warriors as you disgust me, you have nothing better to do than troll people and write disgusting hurtful comments about them. Why do you do this? It’s quite simple you troll because you are lonely and have nothing better to do with your time!
Ant McPartlin is clearly going through allot and I am disappointed with his management, to be honest. Why, as they are his professional minders and should be taking better care of him. Yep, I went there why because I have seen this happen so many times with celebrities. They get used and abused by there management, pr teams and anyone else that can make money off them but who is actually helping and looking them?
Will this happen, probably not as most management companies are more interested in their money as opposed to the celebs welfare. They will only be concerned to a certain extent but if they think you are becoming a problem they seem to move their attention elsewhere. I can’t speak for all management companies but this is the case for most, we all need to start treating all celebs like human beings and with the same level of respect.
We don’t know every celebs past, just because they are on TV/Movies or in the media do we know everything about there past. Exactly, we will never know only dribs and drabs will be filtered through to the media by someone trying to make a quick buck off them.
So, my message to you Ant McPartlin, I don’t know you or your family but I have seen certain information in the media. I can clearly see you have allot going on in your life right now, just because I see you on tv smiling and having a laugh will not show a true reflection of you. My advice to you would take some time off/out of business, speak to a professional and get the help you need. There is no rush to get back to work and you can take some time out for yourself. Surround yourself with people that care about you and that are not just concerned about how much money you can make them!
You only get one life and don’t spend it trying to please other people when you are not happy within yourself. Take a break gather your thoughts and don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are allot more people that care about you than you think. I wish you a speedy recovery and good health.
Guys, have you not noticed how much negativity there is being a father? If not then you need to start paying attention just because you feel like you’re in a good relationship now does not necessarily mean it will be forever. Men are really bad at multi-tasking when we have a family that seems to be our only focus to make money and look after it. You would think that should be the only thing we have to think about really when you have your own family. Wrong!
I was speaking to some good female friends who stated that every woman when they get into a relationship has a plan b should all fail. The woman wants to know that the man she is with can look after the family financially. I know right, clearly money and status seem to be more important than a loving relationship. So why do we men continue to fall for this? The main reason is we always think that a certain situation will never happen to us.
When we go to work to look after our families we think that our partner at home is doing the wife thing. We don’t expect due to the long hours we work that they could be looking for someone online to build a connection with due to the lack of attention you can physically provide due to your hours and work. I am not saying that every woman does this but a large portion do and most of there social media accounts will prove this.
The sad thing is we seem to allow these women to do it without challenging their behaviour. Women are all empowered recently to challenge a man’s behaviour, so why are we not challenging there’s? It angers me personally that these good fathers are out there working hard to provide for there families. Yet, their partner spends so much time taking selfies with the baby and posting it online like she is a single mother. You might if your lucky catch the one odd photo of the partner somewhere but not really anything to indicate they are in a relationship or married. Have you as a man ever thought that about your partner? Have you challenged the behaviour or have you put it down too that’s just how she is?
Unfortunately, this is probably part of her plan b, to give that impression should all else fail with you she has been able to market herself as a single mother! Yet, she will moan on social media as to why all these men are contacting knowing she is in a relationship or married! Remember these men on the prowl don’t know these women so they look at there social media to make a judgement if they are single or not etc. So men wake up and start taking charge of your family and situation and because you work hard and think you are in love that everything will always be ok.
The media and social media continue to bash men/dads on a daily basis and never really shows anything positive about us. We are not allowed to share a bed with our kids as we will be branded a paedophile, we can’t show affection to our kids because we will be branded a paedophile. This sickens me to my stomach every time I read an article in the media or social media about a father trying to be a father but being branded a paedophile.
We are creating broken families, where our kids don’t know what love is and how to show affection. Why because we as fathers are not allowed to show it and if we do we are branded a paedophile, so we don’t do it as it makes us uncomfortable. Social media and the media are creating an impossible job for us fathers and we need to voice our concerns instead of just sitting down and taking in all of this negativity!
Do you ever feel when your trying to wind down you turn on the TV and all you see is repeats, turn on the radio repeats and go on social media to only find the content is also repetitive. I find myself wondering if we are all being programmed subconsciously to all follow the same train of thought. We have so many talented and creative people in this world that would love a chance to showcase their talents yet we spend our budgets repeating content.
I will not name and shame the particular TV channels or Radio Stations but the repetitive content is mind-blowing. Yes, we understand that they do this to increase popularity of the content they are playing but seriously all day everyday! I feel sorry for the TV presenters and Radio presenters that get paid to listen and be part of this repetitive market. I am sure most if not all of them would love to say how they feel and would love to push fresh content but know it could in turn jeopardise their jobs. So I completely understand why they just put up and shut up as the industry they are in they could be replaced in a blink of an eye.
So is this they way it is if we do not like or agree with something we must just put up and shut up to live a peaceful life? The fact someone speaks their mind and thinks outside of the box is seen as a threat! Why, why is bringing fresh ideas and potentially revamping the way we do things for the better always seen as a threat. I myself am one of those people, which is probably why I struggle in corporate environments.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you feel you are being brainwashed with repetitive media content? How do you deal with it?
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