When you were first born, I was so excited
To see your little face I was so delighted,
I held you in my arms and promised to keep you safe,
I knew in my world I would make you first place
When I first picked you up it brought a tear to my eye,
Deep inside I cried and cried
The joy I had bringing you into this world
I have never felt so proud and some much reward
I watched you grow day by day
When you said you first dada
I just melted I can honestly say
I knew the love I had would never fade away
I went to work and could not wait to get home
To hear the pitta patta of your tiny feet shouting daddy at the door
No matter what day I had I know I loved you more
You brought a smile to my face to which I could not ignore
I knew then what it meant to be a parent
That feeling of love and overwhelment
I have never loved anyone or anything like I have loved you
So this is my poem to let you know, I will never forget you
You might not be here with me now
But you will always be in my heart and memories
One day I hope I can just be a father without the fight
I love you, my babies, as I say goodnight
A part-time father is what we will only ever be
They took away my ideal of being a family can’t you see
The stress and emptiness is a daily occurrence
But they don’t care as long as there is no interference
I will never stop loving you and just wanted you to know
Sometimes it’s just easier in a poem I hope to show
You are and will always be part of me
As when we are together you bring out the best of me
Written by Mark Sheppard (in loving memory of his beautiful babies)
As we all know dating nowadays has become increasingly frustrating. With the increase of social media usage and the boom of dating apps have we lost the good old-fashioned traditional dating? People are constantly complaining about the lack of commitment in relationships and if something goes wrong finding someone outside of the relationship to confide in is just a swipe or a click away.
So is it true that we see relationships as disposable and we don’t really have to work at them. Have you gone on a date and realised the person in front of you is either just weird or psychologically damaged? Due to the lack of suitors have you decided to take an oath of celibacy?
Well you would not be the first, people have gone to the extreme of marrying themselves (I know right). Now I am not quite at that stage myself but what I do know they days of traditional dating are officially dead. The change of the UK in Europe, cuts, Brexit, long hours at work and everything else you can through at someone. The motivation to date or stick with a relationship has diminished, no longevity with anything.
Everyone seems to have the attitude of wham bam thank you ma’am, this seems to be everything not just relationships. So how do we go back to basics and form real bonds and longer lasting relationships. I think we need to go back to basics, limit the use of technology, go out more and to change the environment we work and live. When you’re in a city everything is so fast paced and this tends to be passed down to our personal lives.
We must rush to be in a relationship, we must rush to get married, we must rush to have children or the latest one is we must all go to the gym and share loads of photos of how fit we are! The other new trend is narcissistic behaviour it’s a shame if people spent as much time working on their relationships or trying to find a decent partner, life would be so much better.
To all you singletons, put down those apps, laptops, computers and try something more traditional. Organise an event or dinner party, ask a group of singletons to go abroad on holiday or to the countryside. Think outside of the box and think traditional and non-technology related connections. I know it will be hard but isn’t that what we used to do before?