Dads let’s face it we are battling a corrupt system hell-bent on crippling us mentally and financially. So, why do we keep playing the game? The reason why is because we love our children and will do anything for them, which in turn makes us spend spend spend. What if we stopped doing that and used our energy with the laws we already have and campaign for an official Parental Alienation law!
These government organisations have been cashing in on divorce and breakups for decades and the brunt of it comes from men. We have a gender bias problem and it needs to be fixed even if it means short time sacrifices. Under the Article 8 Human Rights Act 1998we and anyone else with children are covered. The right to family life is and always will be a fundamental human right for all. So, when you get a Parental Alienator they are in clear breach straight away and anyone that facilitates it. During a breakup, if your ex-partner disappears with your child and not providing you with a forwarding address or even contact with your child/ren they are in breach.
The only time they can effectively breach that human right is if they have a court order/injunction to say you must stay away because you are a risk to them or the children! I can remember when my ex-partner took my daughter I was devastated and panicked. I called the police and social services for help, I will never forget those phone calls. I was met with hostility from both sides saying to me there is nothing they can do, you must get a solicitor and go to court (they want us to play the game) and they ended with they don’t have to give you a forwarding address. Ahhhhh, that is technically wrong if you don’t have a court order issued against you. UnderArticle 8 Human Rights Act 1998YES THEY DO have to provide you with a forwarding address and contact with your children.
If you read Article 8 the right to family life it is all there in black and white, so why do people continue to breach it? Probably because no one is really pushing to enforce it because it will open a can of worms for government organisations that facilitate the breaches. It is easier to ignore it or true to confuse the person/s into thinking it is not a breach and what they are doing is legal. You’re probably thinking so how to a lodge a complaint then on a human rights breach. Please read this article on taking action about human rights
If we don’t stop propping up these organisations financially things will never change, we have rights and we must start exercising them. Also, seeing the whole fiasco with Brexit we may also have a chance of raising our concerns to https://www.echr.coe.inthow the court’s works
Due to the devastating effects of breakups and divorces have on fathers we must compose ourselves with an action plan that works. Make your formal complaints where necessary but you also need to think of a long-term solution as most we get offered are short-term and cost us a lot of money.
When I woke up today I was thinking about my situation and the situation of millions of men/fathers all around the world and came to this conclusion. Growing up we were conditioned to gender bias from a young age, we were conditioned to think that women are weak victims and need saving. Which is not true as we should have been taught that everyone is equal and should be treated as such.
So as men move through life we are blinded by the fact that we must do everything for our women and controlled by our sexual urges. These sexual urges make us lose all sense and distracts us from seeing what is really happening to us. We have been conditioned that men are perpetrators of everything wrong in society. If you tell someone this enough, low and behold they act upon it. Men are said to be rapists, paedophiles, cheaters, abusers and are the only ones that can commit domestic violence. To be honest, I thought this was true until it started to happen to myself and close friends, all the things I have mentioned can happen to anyone.
Unfortunately, when you look into the media’s gender bias you will find it seems to be only men that can commit such heinous acts. The biggest gender bias a man will ever face in his life is divorce court, family court and child maintenance services/support. These government organisations we devised to cripple men and bring them to the brink of no return. I never knew how these organisations worked until you get dragged into them by a bitter ex-partner and you quickly realise how bad the gender bias is.
I have had various conversations with women about children and some came out with truly shocking facts that I never ever considered. Some women will deliberately trap men for their own benefit whether for financial reward or good looking babies!!!!! Yes, you heard me right depending on their job or personal wealth it will play a major part in whether they will trap them in a child situation. They are not really interested if you are around or not provided you pay for the child they trap you with in the first place. I was shocked and could not believe someone could ever do that for personal gain only and pretend to want to be with that man, for a means to an end.
Then I looked on social media especially on Instagram and Facebook and you see all these young women with kids hanging off them like an accessory as opposed to a living person. Some even had partners but you would see like one or two photos of the partner which looking from outside in you might even think it was a friend. Are men now becoming a commodity that can be used and abused for genetics or financial gain? I was told that some women would routinely tell their partner they were on the pill so they would get pregnant just to have his child as she would not be taking the pill! Would this hold up in family court if you told the judge you were tricked into having the child? Hell no, the judge would laugh at you and say you should never have had sex in the first place if you did not want kids.
So you as the man are furious that you were tricked into having this child but there is nothing you can do legally. You ex-partner will thank you for the baby you did not want now I am going to Child Maintenance Services to screw you over financially. They will not look at the facts or anything you have to say you will automatically be pursued and you will be made to look like a criminal deadbeat dad. Is this right? Hell no, but legally you don’t have a leg to stand on unless you have strong evidence of the deception. Even then they probably won’t care and still cripple you financially so you will not win either way.
Due to us men being conditioned to think women are weak victims and need looking after we will always lose unless someone changes the system and makes it more equal. When a woman goes to court or contacts the child maintenance service that is the first thing they think. Another poor victim and a deadbeat father running away from responsibility without knowing any of the circumstances or viewing any evidence. As a father, you will always be prejudged in these types of situations and you will need overwhelming evidence to change anyone’s view on that.
Men have become less inclined to want children for this reason and we are breeding an angry gender biased generation. A man will only take note of this gender bias, only when it is too late as they will already have fallen in love and be blinded by it. All I am saying is men need to be educated from young about inequalities and be taught about how to be a good person but also know that gender bias exists.
Reform is the only way we can change things and it is down to us to make those changes as no one else will because it is too profitable for the system to remain the same! If you are in this situation reach out to a fellow man and explain your situation and you are not alone. TALK TO SOMEONE!
Some of you might know or may not know the struggles I have had when it comes to seeing or having access to my children. I spend more time in court than I actually do spending time with my kids, I know crazy right! Unfortunately, in the UK the law fully supports fathers being bank accounts for their kids whether your ex-partner allows you to see the kids or not.
We have a clear bias within UK Legal System and Child Maintenance system and needs major reform and transparency. Family courts are a mess and need reforming, instead of treating fathers like second class citizens but as equals you might just get a better reaction from them. My campaign will start next week, whether you’re a single father or in a relationship this will benefit you either way. I believe images speak volumes more so than a load of text by myself explaining what is happening.
If we have a fairer and equal system it will encourage fathers to be part of there kids lives instead of alienating them. We are always saying kids need positive role models, so let’s create a fairer society for all and encourage the father to be that positive role model and not alienate them!
I would appreciate your support and help with this campaign if you would like to get involved please get in touch. It is time for a change and only WE can make it!
So, the questions fathers get asked allot is why do we spend so much time in court? Unfortunately, if you have had a divorce or a breakup even though as a father we have equal parental rights. The courts and the system do not agree with it and the only way a father can seem to see his kids is if he takes his ex-partner to court. We have to pay all the fees, including the maintenance for our children even when they are deliberately being withheld from the father.
As a father being there for your child, being on the birth certificate and everything else we do for our children means nothing in the eyes of the law. Women to this day are still allowed to disappear with your child and use your child as a weapon with no consequences for there actions. Is this fair, of course, it is not but until the law sees this and fathers start fighting back nothing will ever change.
Women are breaking human rights laws by doing this but as no one has challenged it in court nothing has even been done about it. There is a piece of legislation that every human being is protected by in the UK, I would like to say worldwide but it would probably be a lie. It is Article 8 of the Human Rights Act 1998. Under Article 8 protects your right to respect for private and family life, your home and correspondence.
Based on the Article 8, why are so many women breaching this daily and hiding behind government agencies who are assisting in these breaches? It’s because no one has challenged it, most fathers are so tired and stressed they don’t have the fight in them to fight in court. Maybe other man just settle for the fact they will never see their children again and just walk away.
I will never walk away from my children and I don’t think you should either, united we are a lot stronger and divided we will fall. So, don’t settle for anything less than your child and you being in their lives no one can or should take away that basic human right of yours.
Fathers should be allowed to enjoy their kids like the mothers do and not spend his life in court fighting for his basic rights.