The Total Reform campaign was started by the Cornerstone Community Alliance to not only bring awareness but also campaign for real law changes. In 2018 we are still suffering from the same injustices we did two to three decades ago and nothing has changed with regards to balancing the system including meaningful law changes. They talk about equality but do not make the necessary changes to make things equal as having an imbalance within society creates a monetary industry. There are ways to make money as a business yes but not on the misery and pain of others who just want to live normal lives and have the people they care about in there lives.
Cornerstone Community Alliance, CCA, was formed by us, a group of parents, grandparents and organisations of family rights. Together, we campaign for the “best outcomes for our own children, your children and grandchildren”.
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We have partnered with some great campaigners and support groups most recently the Peace Not Pas team. They have an incredible network of support for people experiencing Parental Alienation and the mental health issues that some people experience from it. You can read more here click here
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The reason why no celebrity or government official on our father’s rights / equal rights movement is because it is not in their interest. Why do you ask? Due to the amount of money that is made from it and how many celebs and government officials have jumped on women’s rights movements they ignore the facts about men. I do believe some of them actually think we are doing this just to distract them from the women’s rights movements.
Let’s make this clear women’s rights are just as important as men’s and I believe everyone should be living an equal life. There should be no gender bias anywhere but that is just my own personal opinion unfortunately that does not make financial sense in the eyes of the government and law.
So, let’s look at some statistics and this is for the year of 2016 England & Wales by the office of national statistics –
• There were 106,959 divorces of opposite-sex couples in 2016, an increase of 5.8% compared with 2015.
• The divorce rate for opposite-sex couples was highest among men aged 45 to 49 and women in their thirties (ages 30 to 39).
Now some of you may be thinking that this is not allot in comparison to our population, just remember this is only what is officially gone through the courts. It does not account for people that are married but just separated and normal breakups are not accounted for. For me, that figure is too high and I am sure it will get higher over years to come. Why do I think it will increase, we don’t promote positive relationships and marriages. If you look at the media it’s always showing some celeb getting divorced or having a breakup with large amounts of financial settlements being discussed.
Your thinking what is this actually promoting? It is saying if you choose your man wisely it could be very profitable for you and everyone concerned, solicitors, barristers, family court, child maintenance services and every estate agents get a piece. The other key thing it promotes is parental alienation, if you as the women alienate the father you will receive more money. Do you remember the days when people used to say the more babies you have the more money you get in benefits? The same principle applies to parental alienation the law supports you alienating the father from their children which in turn allows you to claim more money!
If you did 50/50 co-parenting you would get little or nothing as a mother in terms of financial support so it would not be in the mother’s interest to do that. Yes, it is about money for a lot of women, not all but allot so that is why you will see a rise in CMS claims against fathers. It is being used as a weapon and has been for decades but CMS know if they make a fair system for all it probably will not have a business as it business model is built on fathers not having access! That is why they will always state it’s a separate issue and say if you want to see your kids you have to go to COURT! How about before you as the CMS actually contact the fathers and speak to them with respect and ask them for their side, if they do not have access to their child due to parental alienation, application denied! How about that? No, because it is not how their business model works and it would not be able to sustain itself as a business if that happened.
What about the women that serial marry rich men and divorce them for money? Nothing, technically this would be fraud but it would be difficult to prove and most men don’t even think about it. They are far too distracted with the divorce/breakup and whether or not they will ever see their kids again.
We need to change the laws and the perception of marriage/relationships for anything to really improve. Until then it will always be a money-making industry which seems to only affect the men mainly with our gender bias family court system. We ourselves as businesses need to start abiding by our own Human Rights and Equality Act laws and stop abusing and manipulating the system.
So, today I called around to see what support fathers would get with regards to family law cases for seeing their children. I was told under no circumstances will any legal aid be available for anything relating to family law as it has been cut. This made me think, we as fathers are forced to go to court to see our children but yet we don’t have the money to go to court yet that is the only way we will see our children? I know right does not make any sense!
So when you speak to a public servant or someone in a government agency and they say something to you like “yeah I’m sorry about that but you will need to go to court if you want to see your child or contest anything” but what they don’t tell you is that you will not be eligible for any support or legal aid. We know you have no money to go to court but unfortunately, you will need to find it to hire a solicitor as we cannot help you.
I have been fighting for fathers rights for approximately 10 years and the system is getting progressively worse and the gender bias gap is getting bigger. This triggered an idea, we will need to set up a fund for the father’s rights campaigners, alienated parents and grandparents. This will be the only way we will be able to sustain the legal challenges we need and help parents to see their alienated children and challenge the human rights breaches and equality breaches.
What we will need is the following accountants, business advisors, financial advisors or ex-specialists will also be able to help. We will need the correct business model to make sure that priority cases get dealt with first and so on.
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As a father when you visit a solicitor or family court, do you feel like you’re speaking to robots or get scripted answers? I do, I visited a solicitor today and as soon as you sit down you’re already being prejudged. They ask you, so what’s happened then? As soon as you tell them you can see their faces drop and eyes start rolling. Not another father complaining about not seeing his children boring, let me get the scripted answers out now and send him on his way!
The thing that infuriates me is if they know this is a problem why are they not doing anything about it? Oh sorry, it’s a big money spinner that is why and the fathers pay the bill for legal support so why would we want to stop that! When need mothers to disappear with their kids to prop up the family court system, if they didn’t the family court would crumble due to no money or funding.
It’s bizarre that fathers don’t see this, I went through the motions today like I always do. As I know what they will say, So Mr Sheppard “if you want to see your kids you will have to go to court”, I replied, “as the biological father why should I have to go to court every time I want to see my child?”. The solicitor’s reply was “unfortunately that is the way it is” I said not it isn’t and that is not how it should be and this is why I campaign for change.
Fathers/Dads you really need to wake up and smell the latte, we are being forced into a financial/court trap that the only person that wins is the Family Court system. I cannot believe in 2018 fathers are still facing the same issue as me when I started my court battles 10 years ago! Absolutely nothing has changed and this is why our children are a mess, being forced into the court system because fathers have no choice!
We don’t have an issue with the courts bringing up our kids but yet we are crying out for fathers to take more responsibility. When the judge makes his assessment of the court case “it will be made in the best interest of the child” well the best interest of the child would be not having to end up in court in the first place, no?
Sometimes I wonder how do you fix such a broken system that forces fathers to be part of such a corrupt broken system that penalises you for loving your children.
When I woke up today I was thinking about my situation and the situation of millions of men/fathers all around the world and came to this conclusion. Growing up we were conditioned to gender bias from a young age, we were conditioned to think that women are weak victims and need saving. Which is not true as we should have been taught that everyone is equal and should be treated as such.
So as men move through life we are blinded by the fact that we must do everything for our women and controlled by our sexual urges. These sexual urges make us lose all sense and distracts us from seeing what is really happening to us. We have been conditioned that men are perpetrators of everything wrong in society. If you tell someone this enough, low and behold they act upon it. Men are said to be rapists, paedophiles, cheaters, abusers and are the only ones that can commit domestic violence. To be honest, I thought this was true until it started to happen to myself and close friends, all the things I have mentioned can happen to anyone.
Unfortunately, when you look into the media’s gender bias you will find it seems to be only men that can commit such heinous acts. The biggest gender bias a man will ever face in his life is divorce court, family court and child maintenance services/support. These government organisations we devised to cripple men and bring them to the brink of no return. I never knew how these organisations worked until you get dragged into them by a bitter ex-partner and you quickly realise how bad the gender bias is.
I have had various conversations with women about children and some came out with truly shocking facts that I never ever considered. Some women will deliberately trap men for their own benefit whether for financial reward or good looking babies!!!!! Yes, you heard me right depending on their job or personal wealth it will play a major part in whether they will trap them in a child situation. They are not really interested if you are around or not provided you pay for the child they trap you with in the first place. I was shocked and could not believe someone could ever do that for personal gain only and pretend to want to be with that man, for a means to an end.
Then I looked on social media especially on Instagram and Facebook and you see all these young women with kids hanging off them like an accessory as opposed to a living person. Some even had partners but you would see like one or two photos of the partner which looking from outside in you might even think it was a friend. Are men now becoming a commodity that can be used and abused for genetics or financial gain? I was told that some women would routinely tell their partner they were on the pill so they would get pregnant just to have his child as she would not be taking the pill! Would this hold up in family court if you told the judge you were tricked into having the child? Hell no, the judge would laugh at you and say you should never have had sex in the first place if you did not want kids.
So you as the man are furious that you were tricked into having this child but there is nothing you can do legally. You ex-partner will thank you for the baby you did not want now I am going to Child Maintenance Services to screw you over financially. They will not look at the facts or anything you have to say you will automatically be pursued and you will be made to look like a criminal deadbeat dad. Is this right? Hell no, but legally you don’t have a leg to stand on unless you have strong evidence of the deception. Even then they probably won’t care and still cripple you financially so you will not win either way.
Due to us men being conditioned to think women are weak victims and need looking after we will always lose unless someone changes the system and makes it more equal. When a woman goes to court or contacts the child maintenance service that is the first thing they think. Another poor victim and a deadbeat father running away from responsibility without knowing any of the circumstances or viewing any evidence. As a father, you will always be prejudged in these types of situations and you will need overwhelming evidence to change anyone’s view on that.
Men have become less inclined to want children for this reason and we are breeding an angry gender biased generation. A man will only take note of this gender bias, only when it is too late as they will already have fallen in love and be blinded by it. All I am saying is men need to be educated from young about inequalities and be taught about how to be a good person but also know that gender bias exists.
Reform is the only way we can change things and it is down to us to make those changes as no one else will because it is too profitable for the system to remain the same! If you are in this situation reach out to a fellow man and explain your situation and you are not alone. TALK TO SOMEONE!
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@joannaltx@LauraJade_11 Hi Joanna,
Unfortunately you cannot force anyone to be a parent man or woman. It is their loss at the end of the day as i personally see all children as blessings. All you can do is bring your children up the best way you can with lots of love ❤️