A storm is coming and it’s going to get bumpy! #TotalReform

A storm is coming and it’s going to get bumpy! #TotalReform

A storm is coming and it’s going to get bumpy! #TotalReform

As a parent, the worst thing you could ever do is stop another parent from seeing their child/ren. This also goes for anyone else that is attached to it or facilitates it. People power is one of the strongest powers in the world it does matter who you are or what position you hold do not go against the people.

I deal with parental alienation and false allegation cases on a daily basis and I would say around 85%-90% are identical. That is a very high percentage on the balance of things and how do they all start with parental alienation. The angry bitter parent with care decides that they don’t want the other parent around because they are hurt and angry (yes in most cases that is it) nothing more.

This can cause an awful amount of anxiety and stress for the non-resident parent to deal with after having a close loving relationship with their child/ren. So, in order for the non-resident parent to see their kids, they have to apply to the courts for a c100 or equivalent for a child arrangements order to be able to see their kids.

In the majority of cases two things happen next which all of them have similar patterns, the police will be contacted with false allegations of harassment, domestic violence or child abuse. I know right how sick is that the person you decided to have a child with has now called the police and made these horrendous allegations about you.

Then comes Child Support/Maintenance, yes it comes in as soon as or just before you submit that c100 form for access. You’re probably reading this and thinking but why if you are the birth parent of the child/ren do you have to go to court to see your own child! I am still trying to figure that out myself but unfortunately the so-called “system” supports it. So not only do you have the stress of not seeing your child/ren but you now have court and child support on your back for a child you are not allowed to see.

The alienator knows if they stop the other parent from seeing the child/ren their payments increase and so does the fees child support/maintenance collect. So that is why child support/maintenance actively encourage parents with care not to speak or communicate with the other parent. Again you might think this can’t be right, unfortunately, it is and has been challenged on open letters and freedom of information requests.

All the cases I deal with are all following suit and this is where people power have come into play. You are now forcing people to come together to discuss their cases and share information which is a very very big mistake. You are now handing the power back to the people and sure enough, they will act upon it and combat the injustice you have created.

People are fed up of this cycle continuing which is having a massive impact on people’s mental health, finances and general well-being. The storm is coming, watch this space!

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Not so Merry Christmas!

Not so Merry Christmas!

This is not a sob story or for attention, this is my reality and is the reality of many parents who are alienated or part-time. I use the term part-time because we live in a system/society that supports it and even encourages it. I can’t remember a time I was ever offered to have my child on Christmas Day, why because it’s not in the best interest of the other parent!

As long as I pay child support, pay for birthdays and Christmas its win-win for the other parent. I don’t need to be a real part of my child’s life as long as I keep the money rolling in and presents brought that is my sole purpose. Would the other parent think about my being alone at Xmas, hell no as long as they are not alone that is all that matters!

To be honest I have desensitised myself when it comes to Xmas as it is less painful and stressful. It is easier to pretend it is not happening and to rush through it to be over than to get caught up in it. Friends and family know how difficult this time of year is for me but they just don’t get it they just get upset with you because you are not as reliable or as sociable as you used to be.

When your child refers to you as him or he and not dad or daddy it is hard to hear. Then you get photos and videos of what the other parent is doing with your child and you can only sit by on the sideline and watch. It’s hard and very painful to experience and I hope and pray this never happens to you as it really does change you as a person.

I have never ever the night before Xmas prepared milk, cookies/mince pie and a carrot for Santa! I know it sounds very small but to a parent, it’s those small things that really matter. I don’t get to sit and watch Xmas movies and play games with my children. I don’t get to watch panto’s or nativity play’s of my children nor do I get invited too.

What I do look forward to is a cold empty house with no decorations, no children and watching everyone on social media and TV enjoying or pretending to enjoy Xmas. This is my reality every single year and to be honest it probably won’t change. So, excuse me if I don’t feel sociable or

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Reply from Robert Watling in the form of FOI Request

Reply from Robert Watling in the form of FOI Request

Hello Everyone,

A lot of you know I have been campaigning for a while for fathers & families rights. I have been waiting for a while for a reply to my last letter I sent to Robert Watling. Today I nearly fell of my chair when I received a FOI request through to my email. The letter is self-explanatory with regards to what I was trying to achieve from my questions. I myself have faced some serious issues with Parental Alienation and Child Maintenance being paid to my alienated child whom I don’t have access to not out of choice.

So please read the reply and you will be able to come to your own conclusions as to what is really happening within the Child Maintenance Services and what needs to be done to reform it. I have always believed in a fair system for all, unfortunately from what I have seen in these statistics it is far from fair!

 

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We profit from your unhappiness through divorce/breakup

We profit from your unhappiness through divorce/breakup

The reason why no celebrity or government official on our father’s rights / equal rights movement is because it is not in their interest. Why do you ask? Due to the amount of money that is made from it and how many celebs and government officials have jumped on women’s rights movements they ignore the facts about men. I do believe some of them actually think we are doing this just to distract them from the women’s rights movements.

Let’s make this clear women’s rights are just as important as men’s and I believe everyone should be living an equal life. There should be no gender bias anywhere but that is just my own personal opinion unfortunately that does not make financial sense in the eyes of the government and law.

So, let’s look at some statistics and this is for the year of 2016 England & Wales by the office of national statistics –

• There were 106,959 divorces of opposite-sex couples in 2016, an increase of 5.8% compared with 2015.
• The divorce rate for opposite-sex couples was highest among men aged 45 to 49 and women in their thirties (ages 30 to 39).

Now some of you may be thinking that this is not allot in comparison to our population, just remember this is only what is officially gone through the courts. It does not account for people that are married but just separated and normal breakups are not accounted for. For me, that figure is too high and I am sure it will get higher over years to come. Why do I think it will increase, we don’t promote positive relationships and marriages. If you look at the media it’s always showing some celeb getting divorced or having a breakup with large amounts of financial settlements being discussed.

Your thinking what is this actually promoting? It is saying if you choose your man wisely it could be very profitable for you and everyone concerned, solicitors, barristers, family court, child maintenance services and every estate agents get a piece. The other key thing it promotes is parental alienation, if you as the women alienate the father you will receive more money. Do you remember the days when people used to say the more babies you have the more money you get in benefits? The same principle applies to parental alienation the law supports you alienating the father from their children which in turn allows you to claim more money!

If you did 50/50 co-parenting you would get little or nothing as a mother in terms of financial support so it would not be in the mother’s interest to do that. Yes, it is about money for a lot of women, not all but allot so that is why you will see a rise in CMS claims against fathers. It is being used as a weapon and has been for decades but CMS know if they make a fair system for all it probably will not have a business as it business model is built on fathers not having access! That is why they will always state it’s a separate issue and say if you want to see your kids you have to go to COURT! How about before you as the CMS actually contact the fathers and speak to them with respect and ask them for their side, if they do not have access to their child due to parental alienation, application denied! How about that? No, because it is not how their business model works and it would not be able to sustain itself as a business if that happened.

What about the women that serial marry rich men and divorce them for money? Nothing, technically this would be fraud but it would be difficult to prove and most men don’t even think about it. They are far too distracted with the divorce/breakup and whether or not they will ever see their kids again.

We need to change the laws and the perception of marriage/relationships for anything to really improve. Until then it will always be a money-making industry which seems to only affect the men mainly with our gender bias family court system. We ourselves as businesses need to start abiding by our own Human Rights and Equality Act laws and stop abusing and manipulating the system.

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