So, we finally have a UK report on “Parental Alienation in the UK” which was organised and prepared by NAAP – National Association of Alienated Parents. This has been a long time coming and long overdue in my eyes so I just wanted to say a big thank you to NAAP for doing this.
I cannot stress enough on how MP’s and Government organisations have buried their heads in the sand and continue to do so. I am ashamed that they will not even reach out to the campaigners and organisations to discuss their concerns and campaigns. So many questions and not enough answers when it comes to reform, remember this MP’s rely on our votes but yet they don’t want to acknowledge or engage. These things will not go unnoticed when campaigning starts for the new elections you cannot ignore the people that vote you in!
Anyway, please find the report below and spread it far and wide to educate and push for reform. This report may have been conducted in the UK but can apply to any country you live it as Parental Alienation has no boundaries.
The reason why no celebrity or government official on our father’s rights / equal rights movement is because it is not in their interest. Why do you ask? Due to the amount of money that is made from it and how many celebs and government officials have jumped on women’s rights movements they ignore the facts about men. I do believe some of them actually think we are doing this just to distract them from the women’s rights movements.
Let’s make this clear women’s rights are just as important as men’s and I believe everyone should be living an equal life. There should be no gender bias anywhere but that is just my own personal opinion unfortunately that does not make financial sense in the eyes of the government and law.
So, let’s look at some statistics and this is for the year of 2016 England & Wales by the office of national statistics –
• There were 106,959 divorces of opposite-sex couples in 2016, an increase of 5.8% compared with 2015.
• The divorce rate for opposite-sex couples was highest among men aged 45 to 49 and women in their thirties (ages 30 to 39).
Now some of you may be thinking that this is not allot in comparison to our population, just remember this is only what is officially gone through the courts. It does not account for people that are married but just separated and normal breakups are not accounted for. For me, that figure is too high and I am sure it will get higher over years to come. Why do I think it will increase, we don’t promote positive relationships and marriages. If you look at the media it’s always showing some celeb getting divorced or having a breakup with large amounts of financial settlements being discussed.
Your thinking what is this actually promoting? It is saying if you choose your man wisely it could be very profitable for you and everyone concerned, solicitors, barristers, family court, child maintenance services and every estate agents get a piece. The other key thing it promotes is parental alienation, if you as the women alienate the father you will receive more money. Do you remember the days when people used to say the more babies you have the more money you get in benefits? The same principle applies to parental alienation the law supports you alienating the father from their children which in turn allows you to claim more money!
If you did 50/50 co-parenting you would get little or nothing as a mother in terms of financial support so it would not be in the mother’s interest to do that. Yes, it is about money for a lot of women, not all but allot so that is why you will see a rise in CMS claims against fathers. It is being used as a weapon and has been for decades but CMS know if they make a fair system for all it probably will not have a business as it business model is built on fathers not having access! That is why they will always state it’s a separate issue and say if you want to see your kids you have to go to COURT! How about before you as the CMS actually contact the fathers and speak to them with respect and ask them for their side, if they do not have access to their child due to parental alienation, application denied! How about that? No, because it is not how their business model works and it would not be able to sustain itself as a business if that happened.
What about the women that serial marry rich men and divorce them for money? Nothing, technically this would be fraud but it would be difficult to prove and most men don’t even think about it. They are far too distracted with the divorce/breakup and whether or not they will ever see their kids again.
We need to change the laws and the perception of marriage/relationships for anything to really improve. Until then it will always be a money-making industry which seems to only affect the men mainly with our gender bias family court system. We ourselves as businesses need to start abiding by our own Human Rights and Equality Act laws and stop abusing and manipulating the system.
Message for the Fathers & Supporters
So, today I called around to see what support fathers would get with regards to family law cases for seeing their children. I was told under no circumstances will any legal aid be available for anything relating to family law as it has been cut. This made me think, we as fathers are forced to go to court to see our children but yet we don’t have the money to go to court yet that is the only way we will see our children? I know right does not make any sense!
So when you speak to a public servant or someone in a government agency and they say something to you like “yeah I’m sorry about that but you will need to go to court if you want to see your child or contest anything” but what they don’t tell you is that you will not be eligible for any support or legal aid. We know you have no money to go to court but unfortunately, you will need to find it to hire a solicitor as we cannot help you.
I have been fighting for fathers rights for approximately 10 years and the system is getting progressively worse and the gender bias gap is getting bigger. This triggered an idea, we will need to set up a fund for the father’s rights campaigners, alienated parents and grandparents. This will be the only way we will be able to sustain the legal challenges we need and help parents to see their alienated children and challenge the human rights breaches and equality breaches.
What we will need is the following accountants, business advisors, financial advisors or ex-specialists will also be able to help. We will need the correct business model to make sure that priority cases get dealt with first and so on.
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As a father when you visit a solicitor or family court, do you feel like you’re speaking to robots or get scripted answers? I do, I visited a solicitor today and as soon as you sit down you’re already being prejudged. They ask you, so what’s happened then? As soon as you tell them you can see their faces drop and eyes start rolling. Not another father complaining about not seeing his children boring, let me get the scripted answers out now and send him on his way!
The thing that infuriates me is if they know this is a problem why are they not doing anything about it? Oh sorry, it’s a big money spinner that is why and the fathers pay the bill for legal support so why would we want to stop that! When need mothers to disappear with their kids to prop up the family court system, if they didn’t the family court would crumble due to no money or funding.
It’s bizarre that fathers don’t see this, I went through the motions today like I always do. As I know what they will say, So Mr Sheppard “if you want to see your kids you will have to go to court”, I replied, “as the biological father why should I have to go to court every time I want to see my child?”. The solicitor’s reply was “unfortunately that is the way it is” I said not it isn’t and that is not how it should be and this is why I campaign for change.
Fathers/Dads you really need to wake up and smell the latte, we are being forced into a financial/court trap that the only person that wins is the Family Court system. I cannot believe in 2018 fathers are still facing the same issue as me when I started my court battles 10 years ago! Absolutely nothing has changed and this is why our children are a mess, being forced into the court system because fathers have no choice!
We don’t have an issue with the courts bringing up our kids but yet we are crying out for fathers to take more responsibility. When the judge makes his assessment of the court case “it will be made in the best interest of the child” well the best interest of the child would be not having to end up in court in the first place, no?
Sometimes I wonder how do you fix such a broken system that forces fathers to be part of such a corrupt broken system that penalises you for loving your children.
The fight continues!
Since our government changed hands from Labour to Conservatives I have noticed a massive change in, we will do what we want when we want and thank you for the votes! I thought we live in a democratic society whereby the people that voted you in in the first place will actually get your support. Not the thanks for voting us in, we will now do the opposite to everything we said we were which got us voted in!
I am a Labour voter myself and have been most of my life but it seems to me that we are voting in a bunch of hypocrites. The politicians have clearly lost focus, they spend so much time squabbling in the House of Commons like children in a playground. When you get elected to be the winning party you are supposed to help society make things better and your sole focus should not be money but also the well-being of society. I have seen since the Tories have come into power a devastated UK, which is having a massive impact on people’s health but it feels like no one cares.
It’s got to the point where people are taking their own lives as they believe dying is better than living with the current government and situation they are in. We have serious societal issues that are being ignored and we seem to just be putting up with it and accepting it. Remember we can vote in and vote out who we like and we can protest to make changes as and when. So, why are we allowing our public services, families and mental health to deteriorate at such a repaid rate?
We are talking about Human Rights violations around the world but yet we violate them ourselves on a daily basis. We talk about food poverty around the world yet we have the highest number of food banks and poverty than ever before. We talk about equal rights around the world yet we still continue with inequality. People are dying daily from knife crime, no medical attention, suicide, homelessness, food poverty, pollution and the list goes on. Our government agencies are at breaking point to the point they can’t conduct proper investigations and make the appropriate decisions where necessary.
Families are suffering and it breaks my heart this is not how it was supposed to be when you elect a new government. All our MP’s seem to be focused on their own agendas and not the agendas of the people that voted them in in the first place. So what is the point of having a government that does not listen or support the people that voted them in? If you look at it there is not point, we could have an electronic voting system that allows people to vote on new laws and priorities within society. As having MP’s is not actually doing anything for people, families and public services and we need to wake up before it gets worse.
You have the power so start thinking about taking it back before it is too late otherwise it might be your family, neighbour, friend or acquaintance maybe next. Change is needed and it needs to be now as we have a massive failing government whose priorities are clearly in the wrong place.
Dads let’s face it we are battling a corrupt system hell-bent on crippling us mentally and financially. So, why do we keep playing the game? The reason why is because we love our children and will do anything for them, which in turn makes us spend spend spend. What if we stopped doing that and used our energy with the laws we already have and campaign for an official Parental Alienation law!
These government organisations have been cashing in on divorce and breakups for decades and the brunt of it comes from men. We have a gender bias problem and it needs to be fixed even if it means short time sacrifices. Under the Article 8 Human Rights Act 1998 we and anyone else with children are covered. The right to family life is and always will be a fundamental human right for all. So, when you get a Parental Alienator they are in clear breach straight away and anyone that facilitates it. During a breakup, if your ex-partner disappears with your child and not providing you with a forwarding address or even contact with your child/ren they are in breach.
The only time they can effectively breach that human right is if they have a court order/injunction to say you must stay away because you are a risk to them or the children! I can remember when my ex-partner took my daughter I was devastated and panicked. I called the police and social services for help, I will never forget those phone calls. I was met with hostility from both sides saying to me there is nothing they can do, you must get a solicitor and go to court (they want us to play the game) and they ended with they don’t have to give you a forwarding address. Ahhhhh, that is technically wrong if you don’t have a court order issued against you. Under Article 8 Human Rights Act 1998 YES THEY DO have to provide you with a forwarding address and contact with your children.
If you read Article 8 the right to family life it is all there in black and white, so why do people continue to breach it? Probably because no one is really pushing to enforce it because it will open a can of worms for government organisations that facilitate the breaches. It is easier to ignore it or true to confuse the person/s into thinking it is not a breach and what they are doing is legal. You’re probably thinking so how to a lodge a complaint then on a human rights breach. Please read this article on taking action about human rights
If we don’t stop propping up these organisations financially things will never change, we have rights and we must start exercising them. Also, seeing the whole fiasco with Brexit we may also have a chance of raising our concerns to https://www.echr.coe.int how the court’s works
Due to the devastating effects of breakups and divorces have on fathers we must compose ourselves with an action plan that works. Make your formal complaints where necessary but you also need to think of a long-term solution as most we get offered are short-term and cost us a lot of money.
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When I woke up today I was thinking about my situation and the situation of millions of men/fathers all around the world and came to this conclusion. Growing up we were conditioned to gender bias from a young age, we were conditioned to think that women are weak victims and need saving. Which is not true as we should have been taught that everyone is equal and should be treated as such.
So as men move through life we are blinded by the fact that we must do everything for our women and controlled by our sexual urges. These sexual urges make us lose all sense and distracts us from seeing what is really happening to us. We have been conditioned that men are perpetrators of everything wrong in society. If you tell someone this enough, low and behold they act upon it. Men are said to be rapists, paedophiles, cheaters, abusers and are the only ones that can commit domestic violence. To be honest, I thought this was true until it started to happen to myself and close friends, all the things I have mentioned can happen to anyone.
Unfortunately, when you look into the media’s gender bias you will find it seems to be only men that can commit such heinous acts. The biggest gender bias a man will ever face in his life is divorce court, family court and child maintenance services/support. These government organisations we devised to cripple men and bring them to the brink of no return. I never knew how these organisations worked until you get dragged into them by a bitter ex-partner and you quickly realise how bad the gender bias is.
I have had various conversations with women about children and some came out with truly shocking facts that I never ever considered. Some women will deliberately trap men for their own benefit whether for financial reward or good looking babies!!!!! Yes, you heard me right depending on their job or personal wealth it will play a major part in whether they will trap them in a child situation. They are not really interested if you are around or not provided you pay for the child they trap you with in the first place. I was shocked and could not believe someone could ever do that for personal gain only and pretend to want to be with that man, for a means to an end.
Then I looked on social media especially on Instagram and Facebook and you see all these young women with kids hanging off them like an accessory as opposed to a living person. Some even had partners but you would see like one or two photos of the partner which looking from outside in you might even think it was a friend. Are men now becoming a commodity that can be used and abused for genetics or financial gain? I was told that some women would routinely tell their partner they were on the pill so they would get pregnant just to have his child as she would not be taking the pill! Would this hold up in family court if you told the judge you were tricked into having the child? Hell no, the judge would laugh at you and say you should never have had sex in the first place if you did not want kids.
So you as the man are furious that you were tricked into having this child but there is nothing you can do legally. You ex-partner will thank you for the baby you did not want now I am going to Child Maintenance Services to screw you over financially. They will not look at the facts or anything you have to say you will automatically be pursued and you will be made to look like a criminal deadbeat dad. Is this right? Hell no, but legally you don’t have a leg to stand on unless you have strong evidence of the deception. Even then they probably won’t care and still cripple you financially so you will not win either way.
Due to us men being conditioned to think women are weak victims and need looking after we will always lose unless someone changes the system and makes it more equal. When a woman goes to court or contacts the child maintenance service that is the first thing they think. Another poor victim and a deadbeat father running away from responsibility without knowing any of the circumstances or viewing any evidence. As a father, you will always be prejudged in these types of situations and you will need overwhelming evidence to change anyone’s view on that.
Men have become less inclined to want children for this reason and we are breeding an angry gender biased generation. A man will only take note of this gender bias, only when it is too late as they will already have fallen in love and be blinded by it. All I am saying is men need to be educated from young about inequalities and be taught about how to be a good person but also know that gender bias exists.
Reform is the only way we can change things and it is down to us to make those changes as no one else will because it is too profitable for the system to remain the same! If you are in this situation reach out to a fellow man and explain your situation and you are not alone. TALK TO SOMEONE!
My Reply Letter to Robert Watling DWP